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sex drive low? increase female libido & male desire in ibs & a sexless marriage
What is libido?
Reduced
Sex drive
, also known as low libido, can lead to a sexless marriage and can occur in ibs for so many reasons. A low female libido is much more common than a loss of male desire with figures of up to 40% quoted in comparison to men where it is less than 5%. Low sex drive is often transient, affecting the individual at some point in their life as a consequence of either a physical illness or psychological reasons. We will look at this in more detail including trying to increase libido with libido drugs, aids such as the
ann summers rabbit
(more can be found about this at the
ann summers uk website
) and psychological help and support.
Male sexdrive is normally greater than in women. As a result of this, low libido in men seems to be much less common. Erectile dysfunction (inability to maintain a full erection) is much more common than low libido although the reasons for this are often similar to those that affect the libido.
The significance of this shouldn't be underestimated. Sex is an integral part of a loving relationship and a sexless marriage can put a significant strain on the relationship. Communication when there is a problem is so important. Forgetting your partner in this will often lead to relationship breakdown and eventually divorce.
What causes low libido?
There are many causes for low sexdrive. These are usually split into psychological and physical causes outlined here:
Psychological causes of low libido
Psychology plays a large role in the state of arousal and any stress can have a significant effect on it. Examples of this include tiredness, anxiety and depression, all of which are more common in sufferers with the irritable bowel syndrome. Other less common causes are post-traumatic stress syndrome, for example from a bad sexual experience such as previous abuse or rape and phobias. Having children, money worries and work related stress can also have some bearing on arousal.
Physical reasons for low sex drive
There are many physical reasons for this. Any chronic illness, including ibs, can reduce libido and this is probably due to a combination of both the physical problems related to the illness as well as psychological factors that are intimately connected. Drugs such as alcohol, some antidepressants, blood pressure medications, diuretics and others can cause problems with both physical arousal and psychological arousal. Trauma to the sex organs, endocrine conditions such as diabetes, thyroid disease and pituitary diseases can also cause symptoms.
 
What should I do when I have no interest in sex?
The first thing to do is to try to understand why you have the problem. Your doctor is very important here as they will be able ascertain whether there is a physical or psychological cause. In men, this is usually quite easy to determine as morning erections are common and part of normal male physiology. If they don’t occur then there is more likely to be a physical cause to the problem. In women, it is more difficult to determine and consulting a professional is important.
How can you increase female sex drive?
There are many things that can be tried depending on the cause. This may include lifestyle changes to reduce stress and tiredness, adjustment of medications or treating a physical condition that’s influencing the reduction in desire. Various medications have been tried such as Viagra, Cialis and Testosterone although these have not been proven to be of benefit. You should seek guidance from your doctor if you wish to try this. Physical stimulators (such as the
ann summers rabbit
)have also been tried with variable results and there are also a lot of other products on the market which are said to have an effect on sex drive too. Ann summers uk is an excellent retail outlet for these and you can see links to their site on this page. It’s important to involve your partner when dealing with this problem as they are integrally involved in this. Sex counselling, psychotherapy and other techniques maybe indicated too.
How can you increase male sex drive?
The answers to this are similar to those outlined in the section on increasing female sex drive above.
To conclude, there are a lot of different causes of reduced desire and arousal, but in the majority of cases there is an answer to the problem and trialling different methods maybe necessary.
Sex problems? Share them anonymously with others and get help now!
Do you have problems with libido? Do you live in a sex less marriage or relationship? How does this affect your marriage or relationship? Do you find sex difficult or painful? What problems are you having at the moment? Share your problems and get help now. You can leave your name or do this anonymously. A comfortable and easy way to help you, without any anxiety or concern. A problem shared is a problem solved, so lets get it sorted!
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