Anxiety, Depression and a broken heart

by livingdeadgirl
(pensacola florida)

Well my boyfriend just went to jail. We have been together for 2 years everyday and now he is just gone and it hurts. Also growing up my dad used to drink a lot and beat my mom as me and my brothers were in our rooms listening and couldn’t do anything. Now my mom remarried and I hate him. He is really weird and I don’t know how to explain it. Mom and my step dad went to South Carolina and he wont let me talk to her. I called and talked to her on her birthday and she hung up the phone on me. My mom and I were really close and now I feel like she doesn’t care what happens to me. She moved back and wont let us know where she is. Its killing me to think she doesn’t care knowing how close we were. My whole family has a drug problem and alcohol problem. For me it's both both and I just don’t know what to do anymore. Im trying to cover the pain of feeling abandoned and being abused as a kid and recently Im just tired. Im only 19 and Im tired of life and the way things are going. I want my mother back and my boyfriend home with me. I love them and miss them so much my heart is broken. I have real bad anxiety attacks, so bad I end up in a ball on the ground in pain. I have ulcers from stress and Im clinically depressed. I just need some help!

Your Broken Heart

Wow, you have so much mixed emotion. You certainly have a broken heart syndrome. You are 19 years old now and I think your mother now feels that you are an adult and she now wishes to enjoy her life having looked after you for so many years. I can understand you’re hurting, after all you feel that your step dad has taken your mum away. However, from your description this is unlikely to be the case. Its more likely your mum now wishes to lead her own life and has found happiness with her new partner.

You need to embrace the fact that your mum has now found love with someone that she cares about. You too have a boyfriend who you clearly care about. The fact that he’s gone to jail doesn’t change this. You can still continue caring about him and hopefully help him to change his way when he is released.

Yes, you feel depressed and why shouldn’t you? After all, this is a reaction that anyone would have in your situation. Reactive depression to the situation you are in is clearly natural. It will improve in time! Now’s the time to turn all your negatives to positives. Your mum will still be there for you. It sounds as if your persistence has driven her away from you, but that will change if you ease back a bit. Take steps to improve your life. Get out, get to see friends that maybe you haven’t seen for a long time. Have no friends? Join a club that interests you and meet like minded people. Get a job if you haven’t got one already. Volunteer to help others, there are always plenty of vacancies for volunteers.

Anxiety and depression not settling? Look at seeing someone about this. Maybe some psychotherapy will help this and allow you to organise your thoughts more. If you have drink and drug issues, you can seek help for this too. There is help out there, just take the initiative and get it sorted! Good luck!




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